- When you walk in to a delivery room after as many pregnancies as I’ve had, you get a bit of street cred. I learned that I finally have a respected voice in my own delivery room. Not that I didn’t before; it’s just that before it was harder to have the staff listen.
- Midwives, support all birth choices except mine: to have an epidural. It’s all freedom of choice, individuality, and power to the mammas until you say you’d like a needle in your spine. If I’m wrong, please someone give me the name of a midwife who will let me have my plan, my way. I’ve already spoken to several, who will not…and they actually tried to shame me a little for my choice. I’d love, love, love to have a midwife next time who supports my birth plan.
- For me and my family, vaccinations need to be delayed. We gave it on time for the first time to this baby, and it changed her to a totally different child within a matter of hours. I delayed all of my other babies, I don’t know why I changed a good thing with this one. For now on, I’m going to put a two - four month lag on shots.
- I need to tell all of my friends and family that I do not need support in my post partum time. I could do post partum with my eyes closed. It’s easy peasy. When I need support is in my last four weeks of pregnancy, which for me is weeks 38-42. It is 10 kinds of unbearable for me. I’m in so much pain I can barely move. Every single time, I know it’s likely I’ll go overdue again, but every single time, I hold out hope that baby will come sometime around his or her due date. It’s mental torture. I’ve also made a note to try to remember to reach out to other mammas during this time. I want to try to get that early support in to them before their friends and family swoop in after baby is born.
- Post Partum Depression/Baby Blues can be avoided by deep-nesting. (This is just for me. I don’t know if it works for everyone). If I stay at home with my babe in my arms for the majority of my day for the first two-four weeks, the baby blues stay at bay. When I leave my house or leave my babe somewhere with someone else, baby blues creep in. Deep-nesting worked fabulous for me.
- I’m not offering a number to people anymore about how many kids I have. If they ask, I’ll tell them, but I’m not throwing it out there anymore. Once you get to this many kids, many people are strangely not happy/excited for you anymore when you get pregnant. I actually had a lady at Costco lecture me about over-population.
- Even after all these kids, there is always so much more to learn. Every time I think I have it all figured out, my kids grow and/or change and parenting is a whole new ball game again, but it’s the best game there is. I love every minute. Clint and I have no regrets, and we’re thankful every day that we’ve been blessed with so many little hearts to love and raise.
The Vanderveen Team
Maxwell South Star Realty
Phone: 403.253.5678 Fax: 403.592.6736